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Consecutive Miscarriage

My daughter is seven days away from delivering my new grandchild, and due to distance, I am unable to be there.  I have lamented over this fact trying to find a solution, but alas, there is not one on the horizon.  I have worried about her health as I have watched her over her last trimester.  She has endured the fatigue and pain that accompanies the final stage of pregnancy without anyone to help her.  She lives in Hawaii, a recent transplant due to her husband’s occupation, and therefore, finds herself without friends or family to love or assist her.   Yesterday after she got home from church, she told me something that was absolutely horrifying.  While she was in her women’s class, her women’s group leader announced that she had suffered her twelfth miscarriage this past week.  Wow, how could you not feel badly for this woman’s emotional pain and suffering?  My daughter immediately asked me what she could do for this woman.  In order to help someone who has suffered a miscarriage, one must first understand the confusion and grief that accompanies such a profound loss. Eight Important things to know about Miscarriage and Grief

MISCARRIAGE IS NOT ACKNOWLEDGED AS LOSS

Miscarriage is classified as a non-loss within society.  Unfortunately, when a mother miscarries a pregnancy, many people may not have known that she was pregnant.  Sometimes the pregnancy announcement is delayed for one reason or another.  Parents who have previously suffered miscarriage are less likely to share the news of pregnancy early on due to an apprehension of potential recurrence. Human beings are experience driven.  If one does not have personal experience with a certain thing, one is generally unmoved by it.  The missed opportunity of holding, touching, kissing, or cooing a newborn baby leaves us without a tangible experience from which to draw.  The parent couple, grandparent couples, and perhaps siblings are potentially the only human beings on the face of the earth who will mourn the loss of a premature infant.  This small circle of awareness does not offer a support network of understanding or assistance for those suffering the very real experience of grief following the death of a wee loved one. MISCARRIAGE IS THE DEATH OF A CHILD

Ask anyone, “What is the worst sort of death known to mankind?”  The answer will always be, “The death of a child.”Although others may not have experienced the life of an expectant couple’s baby, the expectant couple has.  These parents have planned, prepared, sacrificed, and experienced the life of their child.  The death of their baby brings with it the death of their plans and hopes for their future.  It brings the same chaos and fears survivors experience at the death of any other loved one.  Expectant parents may experience a loss of identity, unity, and purpose.  These losses may spill over into other aspects of their lives.  Unfortunately, for parents grieving a miscarriage, there is little understanding, or patience found for them within society.  They are expected to bounce back as though nothing has happened by people who have not experienced the devastating death of a child. Continue Reading →

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DPS Urges Drivers to Practice Safety During Spring Break

AUSTIN – The Texas Department of Public Safety (DPS) is reminding Texans that Spring Break represents a break from school and work – but not safety. In expectation of increased highway traffic, the department is urging drivers to obey all traffic laws and use extra caution when driving during the weeks of Spring Break.  “DPS is calling on all drivers to do their part to keep Texas roadways safe for travelers during the busy spring vacation season,” said DPS Director Steven McCraw. “By always driving sober, obeying traffic laws and keeping your attention on the road, Texans can decrease their chances of being involved in a life-threatening situation or crash.”   
 In addition, DPS troopers and local law enforcement in the coastal areas of Texas will be enhancing enforcement efforts during Spring Break, watching for speeders, drunk drivers and seat-belt violators.  DPS offers the following tips for safe travel during the Spring Break holiday:
 

Slow down – especially in bad weather, construction areas, heavy traffic and unfamiliar areas. Continue Reading →

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Youth Justice Leadership Institute Seeking Applicants

OKLAHOMA CITY – A national partner of the Oklahoma Institute for Child Advocacy (OICA) is now accepting applications for the Youth Justice Leadership Institute. The Institute is organized by the National Juvenile Justice Network (NJNN), and offers fellowships to advocates or organizers who focus on juvenile justice system practices and policies. The fellowships are geared towards individuals of color working as professionals in the juvenile justice field, who may also be young adults who are system survivors themselves, or family members of someone in the system.  Each year, 10 fellows from across the country are selected to develop their leadership and advocacy skills in the context of a robust curriculum around youth justice reform. The fellowship is completed concurrently with fellows’ current employment, so fellows do not have to leave their jobs to participate in the Institute. Continue Reading →

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Rich Blessings

I am often asked about funding unfunded funerals.  I am sure it is because I am in the funeral business that I see death as a common occurrence; however, it is interesting to me that there are those who do not understand that one day we shall all die.  I guess some people feel as though they shall live forever.  Inevitably, the truth of the matter is, that should you fail to prepare for your death, not only will grief slap someone you love square in the face, so too will a hefty financial burden. This morning I experienced this very scenario.  I was called by the hospice center to attend a family that had lost a loved one who had failed to prepare for his death financially.  This burden now falls upon those who mourn his loss.  His young adult daughter may need to delay her dreams of college to procure the necessary funds to pay for his burial.  His mother may need to economize her retirement to assist her granddaughter with the expenses.  There may also be others within the family, who might be able to help obtain the necessary funding to cover these costs, but times are tough, and this family is not wealthy. There are several ways to fundraise for funeral expenses.  The primary obstacle is time.  The funeral home must be paid in advance of services being rendered, and a dead human body does not wait indefinitely for burial.  Additionally, each day above ground adds to the expense of interment.  With these issues pressing upon the family, fundraising becomes increasingly stressful. In past articles, I have reported on successful fundraising techniques that several of my client families have utilized. (Funding an Unfunded Funeral, Mourning Coffee for the Mourning Soul, II, Tracy Renee Lee) Today, however, I am broaching a new method of payment.  This type of payment is not often available in the funeral profession; however, the family I am serving today has an extended family member who has a unique skill.  This particular skill happens to be one that I stand in need of at this moment in time; it happens to be of great value to me.  This family is in the unique position of being able to offer a skill rather than funds for payment of their funeral services.  Their extended family member and his crew of workers must, however, agree to accommodate their need. Continue Reading →

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Charlie Brown Comes To Town

Texarkana, TX – Charlie Brown will once again be making his rounds, but this time you won’t have to look to the daily paper or your local television station to find him.  This time Charlie Brown will be live at the Silvermoon Children’s Theatre in downtown Texarkana, USA. The Broadway musical You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown will have eight showings starting this evening and running through the weekend.  Tickets may be purchased online at this site. There will be two sets of cast for the show presented on the show’s website as follows:

Big Cast: (Performing FRI, March 3 @ 7:30, SAT, March 4 @ 2pm & 7:30pm, SUN, March 5 @ 5pm)

Charlie Brown – Daniel Bennett

Snoopy – Miriam Bennett

Lucy – Abby Farren

Linus – Jeremy Creek

Schroeder – Joshua Linnett

Sally – Cate Rounds

Woodstock – Katie McKinney

Maggie Cook, Erin Eppinette, Annabelle Harp, Sadie Harp, Ayden Howard, Isaac Linnett, Alexis Mayo, David Mayo, Shiloh McDonald, Hannah McGuire, Chloe Mears, Hannah Reed, Lennon Grace Wells, Liam Wells, Spencer Whitlow, Kyas Williamson

LITTLE CAST: (Performing THURS, March 2 @ 7:30, FRI, March 3 @ 5:30, March 4 @ 11am, March 5 @ 2pm)

Charlie Brown – Isaac Linnett

Snoopy – Annabelle Harp

Lucy – Shiloh McDonald

Linus – David Mayo

Schroeder – Ayden Howard

Sally – Lennon Grace Wells

Woodstock – Sadie Harp

Daniel Bennett, Miriam Bennett, Maggie Cook, Jeremy Creek, Erin Eppinette, Abby Farren, Joshua LInnett, Alexis Mayo, Katie McKinney, Hannah McGuire, Chloe Mears, Hannah Reed, Cate Rounds, Liam Wells, Spencer Whitlow, Kyas Williamson

The Silvermoon presents opportunities for children to learn, grow and interact with others while preparing and developing plays for the community. Continue Reading →

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Pictures of Our Lives

 

The family photograph was once a tradition celebrated annually and then hung on the wall for years to come.  Families would make appointments at photography studios such as Sears, Walmart, Kmart, and the old favorite Olan Mills.   The appointment day would arrive and everyone would dress in their Sunday best and head down for pictures.  Once there backgrounds were selected, poses were discussed, and ultimately mom and dad would decide which pictures would become part of the family album.   It seems that many of these places have since closed. With the arrival of the digital camera, and then the advancements of camera based phones, it seems that everyone has become a professional photographer.   The studio styled photography shoots has been regulated to hobbyist and those wishing to document special events. But, the time of setting the appointments at Olan Mills and others appears to be long gone.  We seem set to declare ourselves professional photographers because we have photography software and a phone. Recently I walked through one of the rooms of my parent’s home and saw some of those old Olan Mills family photos.  As my mind raced back through the years, I found myself looking ahead and wondering what it will be like twenty years from now.  Will our children seek out a family photograph?  Or, will they be content with the school photographs taken year-to-year through high school? Continue Reading →

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Bill Increasing Food Security Passes in Oklahoma House of Representatives

OKLAHOMA CITY – The Oklahoma Institute for Child Advocacy (OICA) applauded the Oklahoma House of Representatives today for passing legislation to address food insecurity issues in the state. House Bill 1875 passed Tuesday with no opposition on a vote of 95 to 0. House Bill 1875 by state Reps. Eric Proctor and Jason Dunnington permits school districts to donate unused or unopened food to an on-campus nonprofit organization through an authorized representative or designee who is directly affiliated with the school as a teacher, counselor or PTA member. The food may be received, stored and redistributed at the school at any time, and school employees may assist in preparing and distributing the food as volunteers for the nonprofit organization. Continue Reading →

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Helping Children Through Mentorship

The Oklahoma Institute for Child Advocacy takes the role of championing causes for kids very seriously.  OICA has worked at the state capitol and around Oklahoma for 34 years to see better opportunities, primarily for at-risk kids.  While we will never shirk that mission, when I took over the role of leading the organization, I committed that we would do more to help all kids. This would include an additional effort to prepare the future leaders of our state and nation. OICA is working to develop new leadership programs for students from various cultures and backgrounds that do not already have some type of association. We intend to provide needed skills to these emerging leaders and help prepare them for the day when they will be active in government, their communities or the business sector. We are developing these different leadership entities and hope to see them become a reality by next summer with proper funding and programming support. Continue Reading →

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Region 8 ESC Special Service to Host “Success Begins at Home” Conference

Pittsburg, TX – The Region 8 ESC Special Services will host a parent conference and agency fair on March 22, from 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. at their headquarters.  Region 8 ESC is located at 4845 U.S. Highway 271 N. in Pittsburg Texas. The conference will feature keynote speakers Patrick Hughes in the a.m. and Ryan Foley in the p.m. sessions.  Patrick was born without the ability to move his arms, legs or see; however, despite these physical limitations, he has excelled as a musician, student, performer and public speaker.  Ryan was diagnosed with PDD-NOS at five years of age and Aspergers later. Continue Reading →

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Robbins Toyota A+ Customer-Based Service

Texarkana, USA- Nobody likes to have car repairs, but when the time comes most of us search out a trusted mechanic if the car is out of warranty and avoid a dealership at all cost.  That was exactly my mindset when our Toyota had a steering issue this week.  As we tried to decide who would service the vehicle best, I completed an Internet search and found that there had been several reported issues like ours.  I decided to look up the national Toyota hotline number and see if there was any known defects or recalls dealing with the steering issues. I reached Toyota and a very helpful young lady was delighted to let me know that there was a recall for my car and the problem I was facing. Continue Reading →

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