Last week I assisted two families in laying their loved ones to rest. As I was working with the widow of the first family, I noticed that she was particularly dismayed. She seemed frail and commented several times that she just did not know how she would survive without her husband. As we worked through the details of her service, I asked her if she felt alright. She said, “No, but how else would one feel after finding her husband deceased on the floor?” I spoke with her about taking care of herself and asked her if she took medications.
She answered that she did. Continue Reading →
I received a call early this morning, it was a friend of mine. She said her sister had died and needed me to come to pick her up. I usually don’t accompany first calls anymore. I have staff members who are responsible for that task. I spend most of my time working with the family, planning their services or finalizing the details, and directing their wishes for burial services or cremation. Continue Reading →
When a death occurs, curious children are naturally curious. At the onset, they want information. The information delivered to them must be truthful and delivered on each child’s level of understanding. In order for children to feel safe during a time of loss, we must give them the information they seek. FOUR GRIEF REVORY TASKS FOR CHILDREN
TASK ONE: CHILDREN MUST Understand THE DEFINITION OF DEATH
Without an understanding of the definition of death, a child will not be able to decipher what has happened to their loved one. Continue Reading →
Our family suffered two deaths this week. One was my husband’s mother, the other was our beloved schnauzer of 16 years, Lady Bug.
My husband’s mother died Sunday morning and the next morning, my husband left for Savanah Georgia. He drove our van because he transported her casket with him.
Wednesday morning Lady Bug woke up not feeling very well. After about two hours, I knew something was desperately wrong. I wrapped her in a purple beach towel and drove to the veterinary clinic in Texarkana TX.
The veterinarian was concerned with Lady’s symptoms, so she ordered x-rays. Continue Reading →
US veteran males are twice as likely to commit suicide than US non-veteran males. Conversely, US veteran males die of natural causes at the same rate as US non-Veteran males. (Suicide among Male Veterans: A Prospective Population-based Study, Jnl of Epidemiology & Community Health, 2007) Over the past 13 years, male veteran suicide rates have increased by 29.7 percent. US veteran females are 250 percent more likely to commit suicide than US non-veteran females as presented in the “Veteran Suicide Statistics by State, 2017” report issued through the US Department of Veterans Affairs. Over the last 13 years, suicide rates among female veterans have increased by 62.4 percent.
In 2019, the US Government dropped its US Veteran suicide rate from 22-per-day down to 17-per-day. Continue Reading →
recently wrote an article about my grandson grieving his baby brother. My living grandson is now five years old. Had he lived, his baby brother would have been two years old next month. My living grandson assisted his father, and his grandfather, in closing his baby brother’s grave. Back-filling the grave, although an unusual task for a three-year-old, helped my grandson understand that his baby brother had passed away and that he would rest in tranquil peace on our Texas estate. Continue Reading →
I was directing a funeral service this past week for a local family, and a client from a previous service was in attendance. My previous client dropped back by the funeral home after the current services ended and we engaged in conversation. His wife, while living, was a dear friend of mine. We served on various boards together trying to create opportunities for culture and growth within our community. During our visit, my deceased friend’s husband made a very enlightening statement. Continue Reading →
I received a first call late last night and was therefore at the hospital when I ran into an acquaintance of mine. As we spoke, she told me that her father had recently died. She began to cry and I offered to send over a set of my grief books (Mourning Light I, II, & III) to her office the following morning. I wrote her a sympathy card and delivered the books about 15 minutes ago. She had not yet arrived at her office, so I left the books and card with her secretary. Continue Reading →
My youngest grandson died one and a half years ago. His birth date was also his death date. This journey of being a survivor has not been an easy one. Although we were blessed with his birth, his eyes closed, and our hearts were broken.
His siblings, babies themselves, have had a rough go of it. At the time of his death, his older brother was only three years old and his sweet sister, only one. Continue Reading →
Have you had experiences that you wish you could re-live over and over again as time passes? There is an experience in my life that I hope never to re-live. That experience is the loss of my grandson. I hope that I never experience the loss of any of my children or grandchildren ever again. It has been nearly two years since my grandson, Mikey Joe, passed, yet the pain still cuts my heart into shreds. Continue Reading →