SIGNS & SYMPTOMS
Visiting places or carrying objects that remind the survivor of the deceased is motivated through fear of losing or forgetting precious memories.
Carrying tokens of affection has long been an accepted custom when one loves another.
One does not stop loving simply because their loved one has died.
If this custom is acceptable while living, why then would it not be acceptable once a loved one has died?
It may be that after a time, carrying tokens of remembrance or visiting special places may no longer be necessary for the survivor.
Until that time comes, and as long as the behavior does not become compulsive, visiting special places and carrying tokens of remembrance are perfectly reasonable and comforting.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), Funeral Director (FDIC), published author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of the “Mikey Joe Children’s Memorial” and Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and Grief BRIEFs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award.
It is my life’s work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
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