When I was a young mother, I loved spending time with my daughters. My husband and I would plan inexpensive weekend get-aways and mid-week activities that centered on making wonderful memories and traditions with them.
Our daughters are now adults with children of their own. I watch them doing the same things with their children that we did with ours. It brings joy to my heart.
As a young mother, I did not enjoy housework. In all honesty, I loathed housework. To this very day, I truly do not enjoy housework. My focus, however, has changed. Now as I clean my house, I wish it were as easy as it once was. The aches of age and the wear and tear on my joints protest as I bend to scrub the shower, or as I stand leaning over the sink washing my dishes. My heart has changed too.
How I yearn for those days when my house was filled with children. My chore list was enormous, but my heart was full. Now I look at my chores and think how wonderful it would be to be washing sheets for my daughters again, fixing their beds, brushing their hair, and planning wonderful outings with them.
My girls live far from my home, which means my grandchildren live far from grandma’s home. That makes my heart lonely. As I work through my chore list, I remember fondly the joy my girls brought into my life. Those memories help my chore list seem lighter and less dreary. The love I have for my children sees me through my loneliest days.
Let all your things be done with charity. 1 Corinthians 16:14
Charity is love. Substituting the dread associated with my chores of years gone by with the love and memories I enjoyed with my children, brightly floods my days with joy. Isn’t it funny how love and family become your life’s blood as you get older? My mind dotes on my children and grandchildren all day as I work through my daily chore list. I remember my grandmothers and great-grandmothers doing the same. The circle of life is a continuum of light and love.
I try to accept each moment of my life as a loving memory. I concentrate my focus on this endeavor by incorporating charity into all of my activities. I do this because I know that one-day memories and traditions are all that I, and my family, will have. One day, either my husband or I will be gone, and the other of us will continue on alone. Then, will be too late to make memories. We must make them now while we are here together with those whom we love.
I am glad that my life has been filled with happiness and that I have realized that joy in life comes from doing all things with charity; including chores. I relish my chores because when the day comes that I only have chores for one, I don’t want to be standing at my sink with tears in my eyes over wasting one moment of joy and love with my husband, my girls, and my grandchildren.
Charity is the pure love of Christ. It creates joy and happiness. Do not waste precious time dreading dreadful things in life. Let all your things be done with charity. (1 Corinthians 16:14) Doing so will bring grace to your days and flood your soul with joy and happiness.
I have witnessed the miracle of charity save lives daily as I work with my clients through their grief recovery. I have also seen recovery fail where charity did not exist. Concentrate on finding and creating charity in your life. Do all your things through charity, and one day, when the worst days of your life appear, the pure love of Christ will be your saving grace.
I bear witness to this truth and pray that you will engulf yourself in charity.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), Managing Funeral Director (FDIC) and owner of Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City, Texas, professional artist, co-founder of the “Mikey Joe Children’s Memorial” and Heaven Sent, Corp, author, and syndicated columnist. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and Grief BRIEFs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate survivors toward positive recovery.
It is my life’s work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
For additional encouragement, read other articles or watch video “Grief Briefs,” please go to my website at www.MourningCoffee.com.
Latest posts by Tracy Lee (see all)