Sudden Death is a unique category of loss. It includes heart attacks, strokes, suicides, homicides, and accidents.
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Sudden deaths are those that occur without warning. These types of deaths require special understanding and intervention. Sudden deaths are more difficult to grieve and recover from than other deaths that give some warning. Advanced warning that death is coming allows family and friends time to prepare for their imminent loss. Survivors of sudden death may find it beneficial to consult with a counselor, especially in the case of violence. (Mourning Light II, 2016)
Children are especially at risk when a sudden death is suffered within their circle of loved ones.
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Sudden death is particularly difficult for children to resolve. Often children will see the death as a fulfillment of hostile wishing. If in anger, the child has inwardly wished that a sibling were dead after a disagreement or even a parent for that matter, the actualization of that death can make it very difficult for a child to recognize the irrelevance between the wish and the death. The child in this situation is in grave danger of extreme guilt and depression. In this situation, professional intervention is paramount. (Mourning Light II, 2016)
There are so many emotions associated with sudden death that attempting to address them in one article is unrealistic. If you are suffering a sudden death, and are finding that you are having difficulties, I would suggest seeking assistance. There are many avenues to assist those who grieve. You may feel comfortable in an anonymous setting where there are many survivors assisting each other. You might choose to team up with a grief recovery buddy, someone who has already traversed the waters of recovery who is willing to help you along your journey. Yet again, you may feel more secure in a private setting with a qualified grief counselor. Your local funeral home should be able to assist you in finding various solutions for recovery assistance. Quite often hospice is able to help as well.
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In the case of sudden death, survivors may suffer from a sense of helplessness. This feeling affects the survivor’s ability to function in an orderly fashion and negates one’s sense of power. Often these feelings of helplessness lead to an incredible sense of rage. Survivors may find that they are expressing aggression toward those who have or those who are trying to help. These expressions may help the survivor deal more openly with their feelings; however, if they follow through with retribution, the situation needs immediate action. (Mourning Light II, 2016)
If you find that you are experiencing helplessness, rage, anger, confusion, depression, or any other emotion too difficult to manage, please seek out assistance immediately.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), the Managing Funeral Director (FDIC,) and owner of Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City, Texas. I am an author and syndicated columnist. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and grief briefs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate survivors toward positive recovery.
It is my life’s work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
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